Remember the glorious get-togethers of your youth with cheap wine and pizza and laughing until your face hurts– that’s how you want to feel when you throw a party. Like you’ve had great whooshing fun with your mates. You want to create a memory that pulls your mouth into a smirk every time you think of that night. Hostessing need not be a set of rigid rules based on social hierarchy, but rather a way of expressing your gratitude for your friends, family and the wonderful life you lead.
NUMBER ONE – DON’T BE A TIGHT ARSE…
I don’t mean spending your life savings pandering to the whims of financial pressure – I mean be generous of spirit. Be present and available. Hostessing a party is not hinged on how much you can spend, it is about giving yourself to your guests – the reason they came in the first place.
THE PARTY IS GOING TO HAPPEN…
Once the invitations are out and the first person turns up –THE PARTY IS GOING TO HAPPEN – it will unfurl regardless of whatever else is going on. The saying Mi Casa Su Casa (my house is your house) is a perfect mantra. Whatever it is you have to offer will be appreciated by those accepting.
THE DOOR BELL…
Answer the door with a mischievous twinkle in your eye (fake it if you have to). Please don’t answer the door with an expression that says “Oh My God, I’ve been so busy and stressed and my partner is being a douche bag”. This is not the time to compete for the title of sacrificial martyr. The food, the grog, how clean your house is and the decorations will pale into poor comparison to the fun of hanging out with your mates.
SPEND YOUR ENERGY WISELY…
Organising and hosting a party can be exhausting. Honestly though, no one gives two shits if the house isn’t 100% mickey-mouse (plus it is likely to be dark and no one will see anyway). Cleaning is and cooking is time consuming. Get rid of any task that stops the fun. If you are having fun, then your guests will be having fun.
WHAT IF, WHAT IF, WHAT IF….
What if people don’t come? What if there’s not enough food? What if it’s not fun? -everyone feels these questions. Your ONLY job is to make your friends feel welcome. The rest will simply take care of itself. Limit the stress. Don’t sweat the small stuff. I promise you that your mates just want to hang out with you. Hostessing a party is not a competition. You will miss the point (and the fun) if you’re running around like a headless chook. Spend your energy the way you want your guests to spend theirs – talking, laughing, eating and dancing.
CALM THE F*#K DOWN
Give yourself the opportunity to concentrate on what really matters – pour a drink, turn the lights down, put your tunes on. Render yourself incapable of ignoring the pleasure of hanging out with your mates. Get some help. Get rid of any task that stops the fun.
The best parties I have been to are the ones where everyone (including you) is wholeheartedly engaged with having fun. I’m happy to help. We have an uncanny knack with food served by awesome dudes, and bar staff that are guns at pouring a drink. We really are your mates in the kitchen sorting everything out for you.